Part of my goal with this blogging challenge, and this blog in general, is to let you guys get to know me better.
Today I’m taking a look inward and thinking about what my best and worst traits are.
These are based on self-observation, as well as things I’ve heard from others time and time again.
It’s not easy to point out to an entire virtual universe of strangers what your worst qualities are (or your best ones if you are a modest person), but I’ve done it and I’m ready to share with you all.
My best and worst traits are that I am…
Empathetic: I’ve always been very good at seeing things from other people’s point of views and understanding what others might be feeling.
I think it might be due to the fact that I got interested in reading at a young age, which exposed me to a broad range of emotions and got me used to looking at things through the eyes of so many different storytellers.
I see this as a positive trait because it helps me communicate better with others and sometimes it helps me to know what my loved ones need and exactly when they need it.
I look at empathy as a deep emotional understanding of others, and it’s something that I think is important to develop and use regularly.
Selfless: This is likely driven by my empathy, but I consider myself to be a pretty selfless person.
I enjoy doing things for others and I have no problem sacrificing certain things in my own life if I feel it will make the people I care about happier or better off.
I think another reason why I am able to practice selflessness is because I also have like-minded people in my life who make sure I am taken care of.
A challenge for selfless people is that they get too caught up in making others happy and they forget to check in with themselves or do things to promote their own happiness, so I’m grateful that my husband, family members, and friends look out for me and, therefore, give me the ability to do the same for them.
Driven: I am not really an aggressive person, but I am absolutely a go-getter, and I often refuse to accept limitations.
I used to think this meant I was stubborn, but I’ve found that it’s actually just determination and has helped me get a lot further in terms of my career and my personal relationships.
I’m generally a soft-spoken person, but my drive keeps me from being a doormat or from being passed over for things, as can sometimes happen to quieter people.
Moody: Clearly this is falling into the “worst traits” category.
I try not to let hormones or mood swings affect me, but it can’t be denied. Sometimes I am just plain moody.
I’ve tried to be more conscious about not taking out stress on other people, but I still haven’t mastered controlling my emotions enough to stop this from happening yet.
It’s definitely a challenge and something I’m continuing to work on improving.
Perfectionist: This one isn’t all bad, but it does cause me to put a lot of unnecessary pressure on myself and, at times, others.
I get so obsessed with making sure things are the best they can be that sometimes I push too hard or set unrealistic expectations for myself.
I can’t help but feel like a failure when I don’t execute things flawlessly, but I’m practicing giving myself a bit of a break here and there.
I do think that constantly striving for improvement can be a positive thing, and I try to let my perfectionism feed my drive and make my work better, without letting it completely take over my view of things.
Closed off: I’ve always been a very private person and tend to keep my emotions bottled up inside.
Sometimes I think this helps me because I can keep from getting overly emotional about things, but it can also be really bad when I let things build up too much and try to handle the burden of everything I’m dealing with completely on my own.
I’ve actually been forcing myself to open up more in a work setting, which is something I never thought would be a good idea.
Just this afternoon I opened up to my supervisor for the first time about things that have been bothering me and affecting my attitude at work, and I’m so glad I talked to him about it.
I felt so much better just having gotten these things off my chest and I felt optimistic about the future knowing that my concerns were really being heard.
One thing that I noticed as I was writing this is that a lot of the traits I consider to be my “best” could actually become bad things if taken too far, and a lot of my “worst” traits have benefited me in some way in the past.
I think the key to being a successful, kind, and grounded person is just finding balance within yourself.
Do some self-reflection and be honest with yourself about good and bad traits that you have.
Once you’ve discovered those traits, think of how they can be used to your advantage or how you can challenge yourself to become a better person either because, or in spite of, them.
When I set out to write this post, it was just another item on my list of things to complete this month.
I didn’t think that I’d actually learn about myself, or about the philosophy of who we are as people in general.
I’ve really enjoyed this one and I hope that my insights can be useful or even inspirational to anyone who reads this.
It’s only day 3 of my blogging challenge but I’m now even more excited to keep going with this, because it will be interesting to see how I can grow throughout the process and what I might find out about myself along the way.
Hope you enjoy the rest of your day, and don’t forget to come back tomorrow to see my day 4 post. <3 🙂